THE FACTS THE LIFE

I can tell you all the things that you need to make your life better; to think of yourself as the worthy adversary that you should. However, this cannot be possible unless you are ready and unless you are open to seeing that perspective can change and it can be anything you want it to be.

It is not limited by where we came from or where we believe we are going. It is not limited by how much money we earn or the friends we keep. We each have the power to make the decision to create change within ourselves and within our lives to give ourselves the fulfillment of the dreams we see when we close our eyes at night.

I wonder, what gets you up in the morning? What helps you on a rainy day when all seems at a loss; when tears are the only things you can see and your heart wrenching through your chest is the only thing you feel - what gets you to that next day? What helps you find your way into the sun again? I would love to know...

For me, it is passion; the passion of life, of love and of hope. It is in the knowledge that change can happen in a split second and though it seems rare there are those among us that are kind and full of unconditional decency that remind us what it is to be human and why continuing to live our life as the gift; that to live it any less than that we are depriving ourselves, our families and those that matter to us of who we are.

We all need a helping hand and sometimes we have the strength and courage to ask for that help; and sometimes we do not.

What I believe is that helping someone is not about how much money I will make, it is about the difference I can make to help that person live the gift they have been given and take all their strengths that make them unique and beautiful to turn into anything they want.

We sometimes lose sight and get caught up in the pay check or who has a nicer car; this can come and go so very quickly, what remains, however, is the integrity and essence that makes you the person you are.

I know what it is to be at the bottom of a pit unable to see the light. I know what it is to help someone in a conversation realise it is not about me or anyone else, it is about you and who you are being every single day; whether you are the person that will not help the lady that has fallen over in the street or the person that volunteers purely because you can.

When you do something that comes from the essence of your soul, it is intangible and beyond words. It starts with doing this for yourself because only then you will realise and experience the gift that is life.

A Spiritual Relationship is when the two or more parties involved experience harmony, joy, understanding and peace. With a spiritual relationship the persons involved are connected at the heart. Emotionally they sense the deep connection they have together, and it is felt at their core or heart. A spiritual relationship is one that has a spiritual union felt both physically, mentally and at other levels. Both parties feel like their spirits are connected. There are certain people we connect to instantly. These are people to whom we have karmic connections. The same holds true for people we can’t stand immediately. We have a karmic connection with them as well. Both of those types of relationships are spiritual because our spirit as or essence either is attracted or repelled beyond our conscious control.

A soul mate is another spiritual relationship that many folk encounter in a lifetime. With a soul mate there is a karmic connection that can span several lifetimes or incarnations. We can have more than one soul mate and they can be incarnation with us in a lifetime or serve as a spirit guide if they are not incarnated in our lifetime. Soul mates have shared many experiences with us and know us inside out. This kind of spiritual relationship can be very deep and stir both positive and negative emotions out of us. Just because someone is a soul mate does not make him or her always peaches and cream with us.

For the most part, a spiritual relationship has a lesson for us to learn. They give us the tools to develop characteristics and qualities that we need as human beings. Spiritual Relationships can also be identified with the patterns we pick in relationships. Issues of abuse, abandonment, love, manipulation, power struggles, intimacy and rejection all fall under the category of karma and spiritual relationships. These situations all teach us a lesson or two. The trick is do we really learn from these types of experiences or ignore the lesson. This is particularly true when one partner executes power over the other as a dominating person over a dependant person. The karmic lesson is the struggle that ensues as the dependant person struggles to regain the independence and get their power back.

Sometimes we become spiritually stuck and cannot evolve in a relationship. These are not spiritual relationships. These types of relationships hold us there not allowing for growth or other experiences. It is true that being a victim, martyr, persecutor, rescuer or love addict may have a karmic lesson but in this case the spiritual lesson is learning how to let go.

In conclusion a true spiritual relationship is one where both parties feel wholeness and complete together. It is the harmonization of male and female energy, which creates freedom within the relationship to accept each other unconditionally without hidden agendas. In a true spiritual relationship one know how to give or take without being asked and to meet the other parties needs without question.

Regina Schwartz has been involved with metaphysical practices through her great grandmother since the age of Nine years old. She is a polished medium and reader. She has had her own psychic phone line since 1998. Her site is a must for information on Psychics, Readings, Mediums and Spiritualists

How do you feel about self love? More importantly, how well do you love yourself? For most of us, loving ourselves is something we may know is important, but often have difficulty actually feeling, expressing, and embodying.

For me, I’ve spent much of my life – as a student, an athlete, in business, in relationships, and in general – demanding perfection of myself, and of course, falling short and then feeling inadequate on a regular basis. Most
people I know and work with have some version of “I’m not good
enough” that runs their life, their work, and their relationships.

As we lead up to Valentine's Day this weekend and think about the important people in our lives whom we love (or the fact that we wish we had more love in our lives), much of our focus tends to be outward and not inward.

Self love is what we're all searching for – in our work, our relationships, and our lives. Sadly, we spend most of our time thinking that someone or something else can give us what only we can give ourselves. To be truly fulfilled in life and relationships, we have to find the love within us and give it to ourselves. No other person, material possession, or accomplishment can do it. It’s up to us.

Especially when it comes to relationships, self love is essential. One of the best gifts we can give to the people around us is to love ourselves in a genuine way. As my mom used to say to me when I was young, “You can’t love anyone else, until you love yourself.”

Here are a few things to think about and practice as you deepen your own capacity for loving yourself:

1) Notice your relationship to self love. How do you feel about it, how comfortable are you with it, and what resistance do you have to loving yourself? Being honest about your own relationship to self love is the first step in altering it. Many of us have not been encouraged or taught to love ourselves. We have also not seen many healthy models of self love around us. And, we’re often much better at being hard on ourselves than we are at being kind and loving towards ourselves. Based on these and other factors, self love can be a bit tricky. Once we tell the truth about how we relate to self love, we can start to expand our ability to love ourselves in a more real way.

2) Let go of your conditions. When it comes to loving ourselves, if we even put much attention on it, we often do so in a very conditional way. We love ourselves only when we do “good” things, “succeed” in specific ways, or take care of ourselves in ways we deem important. While there's nothing wrong with us feeling good about ourselves in relationship to these and other “positive” things, truly loving ourselves is an unconditional process – which means accepting, appreciating, and celebrating all of who we are, both light and dark. By letting go of our conditions and loving ourselves in the unconditional, like how way we often love babies, animals, or others we have little or no specific expectations of, we can start to deepen our authentic love for ourselves.

3) Start practicing, right now. Do anything and everything you can to express love for yourself – right now, not after you think you “deserve” it. Since most of us have some resistance to loving ourselves, taking any and every self loving action we can think of is important. There are lots of things we can do – both big and small – to practice loving ourselves. Speaking kindly about ourselves, taking compliments graciously, taking care of ourselves, honoring our emotions, pampering ourselves, celebrating our successes (and failures), appreciating our “flaws,” and much more are all simple (although not always easy) things we can do to practice self love. Also, be willing to ask for help and look to others who seem to do a good job at this, so you can get the support and guidance that you need. Loving ourselves is a life-long, never ending practice.

Self love is the starting point, not the end game, of our conscious growth and development. For most of us, myself included, it’s much easier to talk about loving ourselves than it is to actually practice it. However, when we put our attention on loving ourselves in an authentic way, everything in our lives that is important to us – our work, our relationships, our goals, and more – flows from there with a sense of ease, joy, and, most important, love.

If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” ~ Thomas A. Edison

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be … your playing small does not serve the world.” ~ Marianne Williamson


“The only limitations in life are the ones we create, believe, and
nourish within our own minds!” ~ Matthew Toone

“I will persist until I succeed. I was not delivered into this world into defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny. I will persist until I succeed.” ~ Og Mandino

“The number one problem that keeps people from winning … is lack of belief in themselves.” ~ Arthur L. Williams

“Deep within man dwell those slumbering powers; powers that would astonish him, that he never dreamed of possessing; forces that would revolutionize his life if aroused and put into action.” ~ Orison Marden

“Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance.” ~ Bruce Barton

“I will remove from my vocabulary such words and phrases as quit, cannot, unable, impossible, out of the question, improbable, failure, unworkable, hopeless, and retreat; for they are the words of fools.” ~ Og Mandino

“History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.” ~ B.C. Forbes

“You can be anything you want to be, if only you believe with sufficient conviction and act in accordance with your faith; for whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” ~ Napoleon Hill

“All courses of action are risky, so prudence is not in avoiding danger (it’s impossible), but calculating risk and acting decisively. Make mistakes of ambition and not mistakes of sloth. Develop the strength to do bold things, not the strength to suffer.” ~ Niccolo Machiavelli

“What separates the talented individual from the successful one is a lot of hard work.” ~ Stephen King

“Remember that failure is an event, not a person… failure is a detour, not a dead-end street. Sometimes adversity is what you need to face in order to become successful.” ~ Zig Ziglar

“Most people give the excuses that they don’t have the necessary knowledge, time, or money required to achieve success. The reality is that they lack the essential elements and attributes to be successful in anything – desire, faith and belief, a plan and goals, daily action, commitment and determination, learning from failure, and persistence.” ~ Matthew Toone

“Progress always involves risk; you can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first.” ~ Frederick Wilcox

“My dreams are worthless, my plans are dust, my goals are impossible. All are of no value unless they are followed by action. I will act now.” ~ Og Mandino

“Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” ~ Thomas Edison

“You can have everything in life that you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” ~ Zig Ziglar

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The price of success is much lower than the price of failure…fortunately, you already have every characteristic necessary for success…your success and your happiness start with YOU.” ~ Zig Ziglar

Too many individuals live their lives as if they were still rooted in a negative and unfulfilled past. Their thoughts, feelings, energy, perceptions, decisions and actions become derailed by out dated information that only serves to keep them from creating a fulfilling present. There is now a way out of the past that will keep you permanently rooted in the present.

Negative memories of the past reside in one’s unconscious mind yet they compete constantly, like a waking
dream, with one’s conscious awareness. This is much like wearing
virtual reality glasses that feed you visual and emotional information, in real time that conflicts with your perception of your true present reality.

So what’s it like to try and function in one reality when your attention is constantly being distracted by another? Well I’m sure you can see that it is extremely debilitating and frustrating especially if you believe that you somehow have to “fix” that past before you can actually function in the present.

The truth is that one can never actually “fix” that past as long as it resides within you. The past is the past and it has past, i.e. it is behind you. As long as the remnants of that history remain inside of you they will behave much like those pop up viruses do on your computer screen. They will cause an unending degree of frustration.

The only real way to move beyond that past is to delete or erase it once and for all. So how does one do that?

Well in the last 10 years it has come to my attention after helping hundreds of individuals erase thousands of past negative memories that those memories get anchored into one’s unconscious mind/body by what I call anchoring beliefs. Those anchoring beliefs are essentially unconsciously held lies about why those memories are supposedly useful to you.

An example of such a belief goes like this: “My negative memory has taught me to be a better person”. Such beliefs, if followed through to their conclusion inevitably can be shown to be lies. When this is done an exciting thing happens; not only does the belief itself get erased but the memory that it is anchoring into you also begins to float away.

A new coaching process that erases negative beliefs, emotions and memories can do exactly what has been described above. The result is a more conscious, clear, focused, present, energized, empowered, confident, alert, peaceful, joyful, and fulfilled human being to name a few.

“I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.” – Lucile Ball

It’s been said that most people fear public speaking more than death. I always found that a little strange but it’s
starting to make sense. That’s because it’s also been said the number one fear we all have is the fear of
rejection. We’re afraid the world will somehow look down on us as inadequate.

That fear drives us to all sorts of negative behaviour. It forces us to acquire things we don’t need simply to prove to others we’re worth more than they may think. But filling ourselves up from the outside will never work. It has to come from within. That’s the message in The Everything Self-Esteem Book. It’s about treating yourself well, learning to be comfortable on your own, and living your life.

1. Treat yourself well.

“Delusions of grandeur make me feel a lot better about myself.” – Jane Wagner

There are many ways to look after yourself. Personally, I take a holistic approach by focusing on body, mind, heart, and soul. It’s about ignoring things that don’t matter and focusing on things that do. It’s about good food, good books, and filling my life with things that make me happy.

Ultimately, only you can know what it is you should be doing. But whatever you choose, make time for it on a regular basis. Learn to find joy in the little things. Don’t wait for others to treat you well and don’t wait for “special occasions” either. Why not have them everyday?

2. Be comfortable on your own.

“We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done.” – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

The people we spend our time with have a tremendous impact on our lives. Like I write about in Work in Progress, they tend to make us more like they already are. Whiney people create more whiney people. Interesting people create more interesting people. That’s why it’s important to spend time with the right people and not the wrong ones.

Before we can actually connect with the right people, we need to learn to connect with ourselves. That means learning to be comfortable on our own. It’s really hard to go against the flow especially when so much emphasis is placed on relationships. But this really is an important first step. It’s like Confucius said: “Do not accept as friend anyone who is not as good as you.”

Learn to be independent by taking time off to be alone. I often go to the movies on weekend afternoons as a way to escape from all the noise. Yes, it’s uncomfortable at first, but eventually you adjust as you become more comfortable in your own space. Knowing you can make it on your own prevents you from desperately clinging to people who will only bring you harm.

3. Live your life.

“A slovenly dress betokens a careless mind.” – Don Quixote

You’ve got to understand you deserve good things in life. Take pride in what you wear and how you look, not to impress others but to feel good about you. Walk tall like you deserve to be noticed. Speak with confidence like you deserve to be listened to. And smile like you have a reason to, probably because you do!

You also need to understand that good things include healthy relationships and the chance to be who you’re meant to be. Life can be tough so make sure the person by your side is one you can trust and respect. It has to be you.